I discovered the reason I'm drawn to computers so much.
They're just so much less complicated than human relationships... they always do exactly what you tell them to. Nothing more, nothing less. Sometimes this leads to frustration if you can't figure out how to tell them what you want them to do, but at least it's your fault.
Wetware, on the other hand, is hard to figure out.
So what happens when the two collide? You get a dose of Second Life.
In the last two weeks SL has gone from a pastime to mess around with prim and scripts and have some fun with chatting to acquaintances into a place where full-fledged relationships of every sort are coming into play. I have people I consider my friends (in more than the "on my friends list" sense) ; I also have people I consider not so much my friends. I've been figuring out how to deal with attractions, both on my part and on the part of other people. I've been invited to weddings; even invited to be IN weddings. I've seen grief and joy, and a lot of screwing around having fun.
It's confusing, to say the least. And I'm always afraid to hurt someone- I have this thing where (A) I care about how people feel; it's constantly bumping up against (B) what I know to be right, and both of these are always colliding with (C) my desire to do what *I* want. Most of the time these things are in alignment with each other. I want to do do what I think is right which is also the thing that doesn't hurt anyone. But when one of them is off - yikes. The easiest decision for me is usually to do something I don't want to because I think it's the right thing to do, and it is what other people want. If I know it's right and everyone agrees it's right, then well, my desire is probably the "off" thing here. On the other hand, when one of the other ones is the "off" thing, I get more torn. What's better? Do I do B (what's right) and C (what I want) at the expense of A (hurting someone else)? That's hard- especially when the person you hurt is someone you care about. And if I want it and someone else wants it for me, but I know it's wrong...... well....
That got off on a little tangent - hehe hope you could keep up. It all comes down to this, though - You (my SL friends- and you know who you are, all of you) have become people I care about. That's a little scary considering the venue, but at the same time I'm really glad it's happened. Thanks for puttin up with me, too. I hope that the list of people this applies to continues to grow longer, and I hope that what's there already continues to grow stronger.
*shakes head* Wow. I intended this to be flippant and off-the-cuff and I got all serious and stuff. :) At least I managed to keep the gory details out. Next post will be lighter I promise.
Q out.
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